"No problem can be solved with the same level of consciousness that created it."
It's no different for solving money problems.
And it's not different when it comes to recovering from a spaz out about money. By spaz out I mean one of those occasions where thoughts about money, lack of money, not enough money, not enough freedom around money, and the like result in really intense negative feelings such as fear. And those occasions where the thoughts are on a loop and possess your mind.
This post is about how to "recover" when that happens. It has to do with shifting consciousness. Shifting money consciousness is a real and tangible thing and as Einstein said, this is required to solve the problem.
So...first of all I must confess. Even though I'm an expert on teaching others how to shift their money consciousness and powerfully create from a place of balance, I still get occasional money spaz attacks.
About a week ago I was at the IGA checkout buying delicious fruit & veg and some other bits and pieces. I went in with a pretty short list but managed to fill my basket and felt the impact of that at the self service checkout.
All of a sudden I felt this panic, negativity and lack come over me. $5 for three peaches!!! $5.12 for two little Lebanese cucumbers!!! Gosh this is expensive!!! Suddenly I started to feel fearful and worried about money. I was spazzing out!
One of the reasons it is hard for me to admit this is because, I of all people, "should" not be effected by these thoughts. Apparently I "should" be such a highly evolved money consciousness expert that it's all "OM" and "namaste" with me and money.
What a load of crap.
Just realising that it was okay for me to have these thoughts and feel these feelings created a big shift for me. So that's tip #1 - if you have points of view that create resistance to thoughts and feelings during your money spaz you actually give the spaz more power. Resistance is futile. The only way to truly shift money consciousness is to accept and be with the ickiness of what you are feeling. And trust me it doesn't have to last long.
Now in my case the money spaz was "imaginary", in other words I have the money to buy the things I need. But the thing about spaz attacks is we are busy "making up" how much money we need and what we need to be doing with it. Therefore they don't always strike "logically", or it could be fuzzy logic, and they sometimes strike as a way to stop us from moving forward - even with things that have nothing to do with money. Because what would we be able to think about and focus on if we weren't obsessing and spazzing out over money? Could money spazzing be the ultimate form of control? Destructive self control??
Sometimes a money spaz isn't "imaginary" because there may be a case where the money truly isn't there, where there is literally no money or "less than none" where you are moving out of a debt situation, so I want to speak to that as well. Not having the money you need and having feelings of fear and thoughts of lack may be more intense or more restrictive because the physical "evidence" is there.
I want to address that in two ways. One is simply questions. And I get that being honest and answering this kind of question can be challenging but I would not be serving you if I sugar coated it. So here goes:
- are there ways that you are more comfortable not having the money?
- In what ways is not having the money serving you?
- Are you willing to let go of that pattern and be someone who is served by money in another way?
The other thing I want to say to that is I have heard amazing stories of people manifesting the money they need in times when they were skint. How? Why? Well they don't succeed at doing it from the negative, fearful place. They do it from power!! Suddenly the soft, gentle (often inconsistent) request they kind-of-maybe had for money to come in becomes a hard core command that the universe quickly responds to. So the tip here is to be aware of the requests you are sending, not just the words but the energy of them. And if you are skint and ready to manifest money (which truly is one of the easiest things to manifest) then step into your power and send a freaking clear message (read "command") for money. Otherwise go back to the last paragraph and consider why you are choosing to not have money.
As I get to my car driving home from IGA I imagine myself in a workshop discussing this topic of creating a shift when the money spaz happens.
In my imagination I find myself totally put on the spot by a participant, someone who I don't know well, who is maybe attending a workshop of mine for the first time, someone who hasn't yet gotten to know, like, and trust me. This woman is asking the question "so how do you shift from those fearful feelings and thoughts?".
My response is "I love that question." And I go on to explore with her how she can shift it and explain the importance of each of us asking this question for ourselves and really following our own inner guidance. That's another tip, be aware that what worked yesterday might not work today, what works for her might not work for you. But asking empowering questions will always lead you to your truth.
Here's an example of what I mean by "empowering questions" (these are actual questions I wrote in my journal right after the "incident"):
- Who am I to teach this stuff I'm a total f&%^ up? - disempowering question
- What can I learn from this that makes me better at my work? - empowering question
- What is the value in this? - empowering question
- What is this teaching me about my value? - empowering question
- How easy can it be to let this go and move past it? - empowering question
- Why haven't I figured this out yet? - could be empowering or disempowering, for example it could be empowering if I'm acknowledging the value of being "in the mystery" and not "knowing it all", it could be disempowering if I have made conclusions and points of view that say I should already know this, have it all figured out and be "perfect" at it.
I'm really thankful for my recent money spaz out because it showed me so much about myself and created more clarity for me to share in my work. But it wasn't until I realised that those thoughts and feelings might not have been "my own" that I was able to lighten up about it. Think about it. Even if you think you don't "get energy" and how it works it kind of makes sense that I would be triggered into those thoughts and feelings when I was standing in a place where possibly many people had come before me and stood and had those thoughts and feelings.
Not just am I standing there I'm literally pushing the exact same buttons on the self service check out. I don't have to take on the feelings and thoughts as my own. They enter my consciousness and they can just as easily leave my consciousness. That's another tip. Recognise that you may be taking on other people's shit. This is different to resisting it. Acknowledging it may be someone else's actually helps release it. You can literally imagine the thoughts and feelings releasing from your feet into the ground, being washed away by water, being burned or taken by a gust of wind.
Releasing the thoughts and feelings from our own consciousness doesn't necessarily shift the consciousness. It moves it (the energy of thoughts and feelings) from us to somewhere else but it doesn't necessarily change the essence of the energy. My work is truly not just about moving things out of us it is about changing the nature of them. It is about creating collective consciousness for women around money that feels much better. But sometimes I need to take care of myself first!
So my final tip about dealing with a money spaz, be aware of the gold, the treasure, the message for you, the thing you will receive if you are willing to boldly and bravely decide to wade through the mucky-ness without resisting and pushing it away, not getting swept away in the fear, and come out the other side with clarity and insight not only about your relationship with money but also about your relationship with yourself.
Journey to Abundance
PS - I'm currently on a journey of shifting my relationship with money from practical, sensible and stable to more playful, sensual and enjoyable. I explain this as my relationship with money feeling like eating a juicy peach, the experience where you stand over the sink with peach juice dripping down your chin.
After letting this spaz go and asking empowering questions I ended up meeting a visionary woman who started her own candle making biz from home. It makes me so happy to see women doing what they love & being happy. Anyway I bought a peach scented candle which is now by my bedside reminding me of this shift I am making. And it felt soooo freaking good to give her my money in exchange for one of her beautiful creations.
So that's the bonus tip, find ways to interact with money that feels good; give some away, earn some in a way that feels amazing or spend some in a way that feels amazing, congruent, and uplifting. A recent tip from one of my clients (which I think she got from Abraham Hicks) is keep $100 in your wallet and mentally spend it 100 times a day. I would add to do that in a way that feels amazing...