Do you ever see other people getting what they want? Do you watch their dreams come true, their desires become real, and wonder "why can't I be so lucky"?
How often do you truly allow your desires to manifest? How many desires did you have for 2013? How many became real? I realise that one of the things that stops our desires from becoming real is the "story" we tell ourselves about our desires. What do I mean story?The story I am talking about, the one that seems to pose a problem, is the story about how we are going to make the desires happen. This is a limiting story indeed and often includes a little "I can't see how this is going to happen" or something along those lines.So often we can't see the how and so we lie to ourselves, we modify our desires to suit what we can reasonably "expect" we will be able to manifest. We deny we want the damn thing. We settle. We concede. The marketing ladies made me see this
I have had two meetings in the past couple of weeks with ladies who are experts in marketing. They ask me the burning question "how much would you like to earn next year?". I find myself immediately casting my mind to what I think I can make rather than what I really want to make.
What if we could stay focused on what we desire and abandon the need to figure out how it is going to happen? What if we connected to the potency of the desire and just allowed the rest to be figured out by that which is infinitely wiser than us? What if we trusted?
How to focus on what you desire?
Getting in touch with the desire for something, the true burning desire, the purpose of the desire and the feeling of potency around the desire is just the juice to stoke the flame and make the desire happen.
Another way to increase the potency around money desires it to connect to the underlying needs that the desires fulfil and to line the desire up with your true values.
A great way to focus on the desire and increase the potency is to do the Money Harmony Journal practice on the thing that you desire. You can download the template and instructions for free here.My reminder, I know how to do this, I just need to keep doing it!
I desired to create a women's circle to work with the Money Harmony Journal practice and not only was I able to make it happen, I was able to hold the circle - called Your Money Your Magnetism - at the beautiful Heart Radiant Women centre pictured above.
On Thursday 5 December 2013 I am having another Your Money Your Magnetism circle at the Heart Radiant Women centre in Melbourne. This circle is focusing on my favourite topics - Allowing Desires to Manifest.
I was able to make these circles happen because I had a deep desire, not only to do the circles but to use it as an excuse to be in Melbourne to visit my best friend and celebrate her 40th Birthday with her (some best friend I am telling everyone she is 40....).
I really deeply connected to the desire, the reason I desired it, and amped up the potency until it couldn't not happen. Sure I was felt fear along the way but I didn't let that stop me because the desire was so potent.
What is your desire? Do you have enough juice and potency to make it happen? How do you focus on your desire and not get distracted by figuring out how it is going to happen? Leave your comments below.To your happiness, potent desires and harmony,Susan Broughton, Founder
Journey to Abundance
Another week has started, a new chance to get it right, a new chance to set your sights high and expect good things.
Do you ever feel like you start out (the day, the week, the month, the new relationship, the new job or project) with the best of intentions and then, either slowly or in one foul swoop, it all seems to go wrong and not according to plan?
It is easy to loose focus, to give up and to loose hope.
How do you deal with times like those? Do you push through? Do you take a moment to re-group and reflect on what didn't work? Do you look for someone or something to blame?
Who can grant us serenity?
There are times when I know what I can control and times when I don't. There are times when I want to think I can control something that I can't. There are times when I want to think I can't control something when I can.
There are times when I feel grace and times when I don't.
Who can really grant us the serenity to accept what we cannot change, the courage to change what we can and the wisdom to know the difference?
The gift we give ourselves
If it feels like things are not going right, especially if you don't feel you have the wisdom to know if you can control it or not, one question that it doesn't help to ask is "why is this happening to me?".
One question that may help to ask is "what is required to create what I desire?". If you know what you desire to create, you ask what is required, and you listen to the answer your intuition gives you, then maybe, just maybe you will discover if you are the one who needs to act or if you are the one who needs to get out of the way.
The gift we give ourselves is valuing ourselves, loving ourselves, refusing to run ourselves down if circumstances in our lives are not entirely what we desire and choosing to take intuitive action (when required) to move ourselves to the place we desire to be in. To your happiness, serenity, and harmony,
Susan Broughton, Founder
Journey to Abundance
They say if you want to attract abundance of all good things into your life you have to be “open to receiving”. I thought I was pretty open. Then, when I smashed head first into my receiving limit I realised I still have a long way to go in continuing to practice receiving. I wonder if you can relate to any part of this story....?
My story starts here
I just spent 20 glorious days in Melbourne learning all I could about the Art of Feminine Presence with my amazing teacher and Mentor Rachael Jayne Groover. This work is all about learning to drop into Feminine Essence, becoming magnetic, and connecting to receptive yin energy.
Monday night I flew home. At the airport mostly everyone seemed to look like zombies, no colour, no passion for life. When I boarded the plane I made small talk with the Cabin Manager and the other Cabin Attendant. They were nice, it seemed as though they enjoyed genuine engagement.
When they served refreshments, again I was engaging but not fake, not pushy with the Cabin Manager. He came back to me after he served me, he pointed at my eco tanka and asked “is that water?”, I said “yes” and he offered to fill it up for me. It was like something about me was inspiring him to want to look after me in the nicest way. “Wow.” I thought. “I must really be in my feminine energy.”
Stuck in the middle...until...
On the plane I was sitting in a middle seat. The women on either side were using the arm rests. I noticed my elbows were hurting as I tried to keep my arms contained within the seat and they were pressing against the arm rest in a most uncomfortable way. I was annoying the woman beside me in the aisle seat, it seemed as I kept getting the “nicest” looks from her when I asked to get up and go to the loo. Also, someone kept dropping stinking fart bombs every few minutes.
I got an intuitive hit. I remembered the Cabin Attendant saying there were only 150 people on a flight that seats 180. I got up to use the loo and when I did I asked the Cabin Manager if he could possibly moved me somewhere else. He said he would see what he could do. I went to the loo. By the time I got out he let me know that he would put me in the last row. He said “you can put the arm rests up and lie down over three seats.” He walked me down to the back. He moved the seat belts, put up the armrests and basically did all he could to make me feel welcome. I did feel welcome.
I felt so looked after. I felt so appreciative. I really felt like we were dancing the masculine feminine dance. He was looking after me. He wanted to make me happy. His reward was seeing me smile. I shared my smile with him before any of this happened. I was already smiling. He was inspired to keep me smiling. I loved it.
When reality strikes
Then I hit a wall. A joy limit. A receptivity block. I lay there, three men were in the row in front of me. I felt bad for them. I felt bad for all the people who were squeezed into rows. And here I was, all on my own, all spread out and happy. All looked after. All because I asked. But what made me think I should deserve all this? All for me. Why not them? Because I asked...
Then maybe 10 minutes later The Cabin Manager came over and asked if I was all okay. He gave me a huge smile and a big thumbs up. He was stoked to have made me happy. But I felt like I was letting my side down. I wasn’t happy anymore. I was blocked.
My ah ha moment
I realised that even though I had physically received this gift I had not emotionally received it. In other words I was feeling bad about what I got. What a realisation. So I did a little experiment. I stayed in curious mind and I just opened myself up to see if I can drop into a place of receptivity. Can I fully receive this? I lay there and just enjoyed this gift. I realised that if I didn’t ask the seats would have been empty. I didn’t take anything away from anyone else I just made use of what was available. What a revelation.
I ended up exiting from the rear doors of the aircraft so I didn’t get a chance to say a final "thank you" the Cabin Manager. I didn’t get a chance to thank the women sitting next to me who inspired me to ask the question. I didn’t get to thank the farter - I will never know who the farter even was.
Nevertheless I left the aircraft a new person after what I had learned. I learned in a powerful way that if we don’t ask the answer is always no. I learned that I can ask for what I want in a non-manipulative non-attached way. I now know what my receptivity wall looks and feels like and I have learned that staying curious can help me push through it.
Can you relate to any of this? Do you know what your receptivity wall feels like? What about your joy limit, do you notice when you hit it you start to back away from the joy and pleasure? Share your experiences here and how you deal with this.
To your happiness, receptivity and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
Do you ever feel like you may not be sharing your full self? Are you aware on any level that you hold back parts of yourself out of fear of being seen? Being vulnerable? Being hurt?"They" say do what you love and the money will follow. "They" say focus on being of service and you will be supported. I haven't always believed this or seen it in my experience or in my client's experience. If you focus on doing what you love the money "may" follow. I say may because there are any number of reasons why it may not. I have described the two main reasons below and what you can do about it. Show me the money! So many women give and give without much expectation of anything in return. Do you see yourself in that? We focus on being of service, on doing something that really matters but we don't really believe we are worth being paid well for it. So often we struggle to see the true value we bring. Often this is because the value women bring cannot be measured in the traditional ways that value is measured in our society, in terms of economic value like GDP and the other measures which don't take into account things like love, healing, creativity, nurturing, beauty and growth. We undervalue ourselves, we undercharge, we avoid negotiations, we block receiving the money that would naturally follow from the things that we do that add value. Many brave women who do what we love still experience the money not following. We may think there is something wrong with us - I know I have questioned this in myself. What is wrong with me? Why can't I figure this out? Is it because we don't really believe we should or can be paid well for what we are doing? I believe it is. And from what I have seen this belief is core deep in women's psyche, we carry this in our collective consciousness and it affects all of us on some level. Show me the heart!On the other hand we also hold back parts of ourselves. Specifically we hold back, for our own protection, pieces of our hearts. This holding back I know all about. I have been doing this all my life to some extent, pretending to be something other than who I truly am so that I will be accepted, so that I will be acceptable. This prohibits me from really, truly doing what I love, and leading with my heart, because what I love to do requires all of me to show up and do it at any cost, risking embarrassment, risking not being liked. But unless I truly do that the value will not be there and the money will not follow. It may be the 1% we hold back the prevents 90% of the income from showing up. I know the more I share my whole heart the more the rewards flow back to me in terms of money, opportunities and enjoyment. There is good news! The good news is once we become aware of what we have been holding back we can choose to be brave enough to bring it forward. It may be as easy as asking: - What part of my light have I not been sharing with the world? - What part of my heart is so afraid of being hurt that I hold it back? It may be as easy as setting an intention to be more aware of when we are holding back and decide today to fully share ourselves and fully embrace the results that show up. There is more good news. When it comes to financial results and believing we can and should get paid for the value our whole selves add, it may be as easy as asking: - In what ways can I open myself up to more receiving? - How can I allow more financial abundance to flow my way? It may be as easy as setting an intention to be aware of the ways we block or limit money coming to us and decide to fully embrace all the financial abundance that shows up. I would love to hear your thoughts on how this may be happening for you or how you have overcome it in the past. To your happiness, open heart, and harmony,Susan BroughtonJourney to Abundance© 2013www.journeytoabundance.com.au
I recently did something pretty radical.
It was a reasonably spontaneous decision and one that many of my beloved family and friends have seriously questioned me about.
My Dad’s words were something along the lines of “Sue, you used to be, like, the most organised person in the world. And now...?” with a worried, loving Father look on his face.
My brother - the one who lived in Taiwan for a year and drove around coast to coast in Canada in a beat up old camper van that he repaired himself with no formal mechanic training - said he is worried about ME!
So...what did I do? Read on to find out.
You did WHAT?!?
It is my hope that in sharing this little story. And a few reflections I have had, that you may question your relationship to your “stuff” and how this impacts your money.
The short version of the story...
In early July, about 3 weeks before I was heading off to the US and Canada for a month and a half I decided to give notice to end the lease on my office and my home.
Over the next couple of weeks I sold, gave away, threw away (recycled where possible) or packed away just about everything I owned. What I kept fit into the backseat and the trunk of my car (except for my bicycle and some bike gear).
I just knew it was time for a change. Big deal right? Lots of people make changes. But I guess what makes this change a little more risky is that fact that, as I sat in LA airport waiting for my connecting flight and writing this, I still didn’t know where I would be upon my return to Perth.
Sensible or crazy? A fine line...
There are a lot of reasons why it was totally sensible for me to do what I did.
I was thinking about moving for at least six months so there was some consideration given.
I got some money back from selling my stuff, which is ironic because so often the “consumer” mentality is to get money to get more stuff.
I saved a heap of rent while I was away, and I didn’t have the same responsibilities I would have had if I kept the office and the house.
But...the future was looking a little uncertain. It has been a great opportunity for me to practice trusting that my needs will be provided for.
Having said all that. The fact that I have money, there is savings in my bank account, makes it easier for me to rest assured knowing that I will be okay.
Risks are a lot less risky when you have choices, you can create a lot more choices when you have money, but you don’t always need money to create choices.
It’s just stuff
People have made comments to me, said things like:
- “I could never do what you did.”
- “I love my stuff too much.” and
- “Wow you are so brave.” (or substitute brave for crazy)
This “dramatic life change: is certainly not something that I would have imagined myself doing. As I explained to my Dad that morning when he questioned me, “I can’t reassure you that I will be okay. I don’t know that for sure. But I can tell you that I feel I have the resources to take care of myself. And I have tried the whole plan-my-life-to-death way of thinking, believing that I can control it all. Then I found out I couldn’t...”.I have to admit there have been times I have missed my stuff (especially my bed....ohhh that bed...) but overall I feel lighter and freer from making this change.
What would you save?
Imagine you were in my position - by choice - what would you decide to pack away in your backseat and trunk?
I kept important paperwork, photos, some clothes, six 1960’s handblown martini glasses (so cute and sooooo impractical), my printer, some cards and letters, many of my journals, most of my books that had been autographed by the Authors and a few other sensible and sentimental things.
In some ways it was really hard to let go of some of my stuff. It was an exercise in non-attachment that’s for sure.
In other ways it was easy and it feels amazing to not have so much material responsibility.
In making the space so many other amazing, and some not so amazing things have been able to come in and fill this new space in my life.
I want to ask you; what would you save? What could you live without and what would you absolutely need to keep? Also, what would you want to come in and fill the space, if anything? Leave your comments below.
To your happiness, space and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
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Do you ever feel like you could do with a little bit more self loving?I do.Last night I attended a (wo)mandala class with Dawn Meader, my friend and one of my favourite artists.What I love about Dawn, perhaps more than anything, is the fact that she can inspire even the most creatively challenged person - such as myself - to believe they can draw. That's my creation above, inspired by self love, joy and happiness.What would someone who loves them-self do? Last night Dawn shared with us this simple, yet profound, practise for self love. It is based around a fundamental belief which I share with Dawn, that our inner or primary purpose is to be happy and joyful.
To be more happy and joyful we need to love ourselves.
The practise is simply to ask yourself the question: "what would someone who loves them-self do?"
We can ask this when we are making any decision such as what snack to eat, what time to go to bed, or what to do with our free 30 minutes.
Can you love yourself enough to do this at least once a day?
Can you imagine?
Can you imagine we all did this at least once a day? Can you imagine how different we might feel and act?
I can imagine - and have already experienced since playing with this practice since last night - that we will:
- notice when we are not loving ourselves,
- feel more "permission" to love ourselves, and
- treat ourselves more kindly.
Love is a verb
Remember that as much as love can be a feeling it is also a doing word.
It is time to take action on self love today.
"What would someone who loves them-self do?"
Please comment below - what will you do to love yourself today?
To your happiness, self-love and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
Are you struggling to break away from a part of your past that you feel it is time to let go of?
Today my housemate broke a mug. She was very apologetic about it. I found it most amusing and an incredibly perfect metaphor. She broke my mug that said “Million Dollar Financial Adviser”
You see I used to be a Financial Adviser. I have even been “accused” of being a Financial Adviser a few times since starting my business helping women to build confidence, clarity, awareness and freedom with their money.
My past was a huge part of who I thought I was. I spent so many years studying, practicing, getting ready to “be” a Financial Adviser. And then it was over. And it was time to move on.
Getting to a place where I could let that go was difficult. It was hard to break free and reinvent myself. Who am I if not a Financial Adviser? I have often wondered...
This broken mug has cause me to reflect and see that it is time now and totally okay for me to completely break free from this part of my past.
Here are a few tips that may be useful to you if you are ready to break away from a part of your past.
Watch for the signs. It may come in the form of a broken object. It may be a conversational topic that keeps coming up. It may be a feeling or a yearning within you that change is imminent. Watch for the signs and allow yourself to take them seriously. They are your message that you are ready to change to a new path, a path that is more authentically you and aligned with who you truly are.
Remember that you will always keep the lessons. Everything that you experienced in your past relationships, career and life stages will stay with you and continue to serve you if you choose it. You can choose to take the lessons with you. Remember your lessons, you are already very wise.
It doesn’t define you. The career you had. The relationships you had. The home you owned. Even the things you thought about yourself and the things others thought about you really don’t define who you are. You are infinite. You are so much more than any labels or roles that you may have played in the past.
You can choose. Regardless of what choices you have made in the past you can continue to make choices in each and every day. Freedom, real freedom, comes from being in a place where you are empowered to choose. And you can always choose to be in that place.To your happiness and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
Do you ever wonder if the way you think about money is "strange"? Do you feel your way of dealing with money may be a little "unusual"? Or do you think there is something you should change about the way you think about or relate to money? I hear comments like this all the time from smart, successful, talented women, some whom think they are “money weirdos”...but the question is: how do you know if you are a weirdo when it comes to money?I suppose it all depends on who you ask and what their point of view is...read on to understand more...Money weirdo 101 - ask questionsI have been studying for years about money and abundance as well as striving to understand the unique role that the feminine plays at this time on the planet. To compliment this I have started to study some of the work of Gary Douglas the Founder of Access Consciousness. One of the beautiful things about Access that I love is that it places emphasis on asking questions over making statements. Questions are are expansive and open us up to possibilities, statements are much more finite and limiting.Resistance is futileAccess also talks about how when other people make statements we have the choice to
One of the ways we can allow ourselves to not be affected by someone else’s statement is to recognise the statements of others as just an "interesting point of view".So who is a money weirdo?How does this relate to being a money weirdo? Well, there are infinite ways of dealing with money and thinking about money. Is it possible that none of them are right and wrong?Is it possible that the measure of success when it comes to your money ideas and practices has more to do with meeting your objectives than with being the same as other people? In other words is it possible that if your money is working for you it doesn't really matter how others deal with their money or what anyone else thinks about how you deal with it?
- resist what they are saying,
- go along with it, or
- we can just let it be and not be affected by it.
What else is possible?
Possibly, and this is an interesting point if view, there are too many ideas and points of views about money and the ideal objective is to find ones that work for you rather than the one right “non-weirdo” way of dealing with money.
If your current ideas and practices are not working for you, is it possible you can find the answer, the things that work, by following your own guidance and intuition?
Is it possible that trusting yourself and your own points of view is more productive than comparing yourself to others?
Is it possible that we concern ourselves with being a money weirdo because we know something is off but don't trust ourselves to fix it?
Is it even possible that there is no such thing as a money weirdo?
What else is possible? Leave your ideas, questions and comments below.
To your happiness, possibilities and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
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Have you ever had times when you don’t feel so crash hot and would prefer to be feeling better? At times when you get into that place do you ever find it easy to stay there or hard to climb out of it? How do you feel when you think about your money or certain aspects of it? Do you feel good about it? Would you prefer to feel better about it? Do you have a belief that you will feel better when some event occurs (like earning more money, paying off your credit card, or finally starting to save)? Do you have a choice on how you feel? I have to admit. When I am in a foul mood the last thing I want is some positive psychology guru (or wannabe guru) telling me that I need to change the way I am thinking to change the way I feel. Sometimes I want to choose to wallow in it a little longer thank you very much. But when I am good and ready, I know that the only way to feel better is to change what I am focusing on. I know this. But why do I sometimes resist it? I guess it comes down to free choice. At times:
“Blaming” outside factors Since Mum died in particular I have found that all of the above factors have played a role, particularly the last three. As a grieving daughter I often felt:
- it can be downright addictive staying in a negative space, staying in the victim mode,
- it just seems to take too much mental strength to think my way to a better feeling state,
- outside factors can be used as a reason to stay in a negative space, and
- sometimes it even feels “useful” to acknowledge and feel into the negativity for a little while.
What I have learned is there is no right or wrong with this. It comes down to knowing for myself when the time is right for me to start my shift in thinking.
- like I didn’t have enough strength to think myself happy,
- like my Mum’s death and the circumstances surrounding it was justification to stay in a negative feeling place, and
- that it was useful to stay with the negative emotions, as if that was somehow helping me “process” what had happened.
What does this have to do with money? In my past life as a Financial Planner I had to make long disclaimers often to cover my ass and the company’s ass from being sued. I have recently started to add this disclaimer to my one on one and group work: “I can’t help you with your money without accidentally, incidentally helping you with other areas of your life because it is all interrelated. If you want someone to help you just with your money find someone else because I am not the right person.” I make this point because the idea that we can move - when we are good and ready - to a better feeling place about our money is the same as moving to a better feeling place regarding any aspect of life and the world as we know it. Start with the generalI know that it can feel bad when you go through a breakup, a redundancy, financial struggles, and the death of a loved one. Believe me I know because I went through all of these in the past couple of years. And sometimes it can be really hard to see the gift, the blessing, the universal wisdom and perfection in these events which can cause so much pain in our lives. And sometimes it can also be difficult to see the perfection and divine order in the regular, run of the mill, day to day stresses and struggles. So when you just can’t see how everything that is specifically happening to you right now is perfect, it may be more useful to pull back, look at things more globally or universally. Albert Einstein has been quoted as saying “The most important question a person can ask is, "Is the Universe a friendly place?” If you can answer yes to this question, or even be open to the possibility of this being true, you may start to feel a little better about how the “universe” is dealing you your hand. Would a friendly universe “punish” you? A friendly universe wouldn’t punish you would it? It wouldn’t give you anything you can’t handle. What would a friendly universe do?
- Would it steer you towards your path of highest good?
- Would it create circumstances that allow you to learn lessons that serve your soul?
- Would it stir the pot to help you avoid falling into a life of routine and mediocrity?
When you are ready to start feeling better, and find you can entertain the possibility that the universe is friendly, you may start to see how even the most painful events are perfect for your soul’s evolution.
You may start to see how any events or circumstances that have caused you pain all have great blessings attached to them. You may even begin to see how you are exactly where you need to be.
There is no question that when your finances are in good working order they can support you in your life and help you live your purpose.
If there is anything I can do to help you to get your finances in better working order, to feel better about your finances or to support you in living your purpose please contact me.
To your happiness and harmony,
Journey to Abundance
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Let's face it we all judge ourselves. I know I do. We judge ourselves for making "bad" decisions in the past.
When we judge ourselves, we close up. We close our hearts and our minds to what is possible. When we have closed hearts and minds the abundance of the universe is not allowed to enter into our experience.
So by letting go of our self judgements we can open up to receiving abundance. From there anything is possible. It always starts with a good feeling first.
A Powerful Process for Releasing Self Judgement
I wanted to share with you a powerful process for releasing self judgement. This process can be used when you are still judging yourself in some way in relation to a decision you made.
Rather than explain it in words I decided to make a video which you can watch below.
And below the video I list the questions for you to use to work through this process on your own, with a partner or in a group.
Start with the Money Harmony Journal questions:- Why? (what was the purpose of the decision)- What? (was it that I was exchanging)- When & Where? (did it happen)- Who? (was I with and who was it for)- How? (do I feel about it now)Followed by:- What do I want now?- What is the feeling associated with what I want?- What can I do to move further towards that right now (that I am in control of)?I would love to hear how you go working with this process. Feel free to share you comments below or email me at email@example.com.If you have a desire to work with me one on one with this process of other processes click here to apply for an obligation free financial empowerment session.To your happiness, self-acceptance and harmony,Susan BroughtonJourney to Abundance© 2013www.journeytoabundance.com.au
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